"It takes a while to grasp that not all failures are self-imposed, the result of ignorance, carelessness or inexperience. It takes a while to grasp that a garden isn't a testing ground for character and to stop asking, what did I do wrong? Maybe nothing." ~Eleanor Perényi, Green Thoughts, 1981
If I could give any advice to a new gardener, it would be to garden confidently.
Be deliberate in digging a planting hole, pretending that you know exactly what you are doing. Don't be timid in the garden. Don't hesitate to try new plants, to dig new flower beds, to trim an errant branch.
After awhile, you will discover that you personally are only a small part of the success of the garden. Plants will grow and flower and set seed without you hovering over them, fussing about and wringing your hands wondering if it is all going to work out.
It is all going to work out in the garden, and when you figure out that it is, you will be a more confident gardener.
(This post is part of Garden Bloggers Muse Day, sponsored by Caroline Gail at Sweet Home and Garden Chicago.)
(Green Thoughts - A Writer in the Garden by Eleanor Perenyi is the current selection for the Garden Bloggers' Book Club.)